Updated: Apr 3
Disclaimer: I am not a medical professional. This advice is based on my personal experience and knowledge. Advice from a medical professional will always be better. I am not liable for any unwanted occurrence.
Is it time? The time you want to lose your virginity? Cool.
But wait, something's stopping you.
It's fear. The fear. of. pregnancy.
Relax! You're going to be okay! And more importantly, you are not alone in this fear.
Before I started having sex, I was T E R R I F I E D of getting pregnant. In fact, I only lasted 30 seconds my first time. I just got so scared! After that, I didn't have sex for another year. An entire year.
After doing my research on birth control and using it properly, I've realised: It's so easy to prevent pregnancy.
Furthermore, It's really difficult to get pregnant. Just ask any couple that's been trying to conceive!
Firstly, the timing of when you have sex is crucial. You can only get pregnant when ovulating. During ovulation, an egg is released from the Fallopian tube. The sperm will meet the egg and voila! You're having a baby. Luckily, we live in a day and age where we can prevent this. Here are several forms of birth control and what they entail.
Period tracking apps
This should be used along with at least one other method. Period tracking apps let you know when you are
-when you are ovulating.
With this, you can see which days are the safest to have sex! Yay!
However this DOES NOT mean you should have unprotected sex. Less fertile doesn't mean not fertile. Which brings me to the next method.
Ah, good old condoms. You can choose from either a male condom or female condom. Condoms are physical barriers that collect semen, therefore blocking any sperm from entering the uterus.
Pargard/Copper IUDs are made of soft, flexible plastic and they are wrapped with a thin layer of copper. They are placed in your uterus, small and hormone-free. The copper in Paragards prevents the sperm from reaching the egg. Preventing fertilisation and possibly implantation. For more infromation on the Paragard check:
There are several hormonal methods. From the pill, to the patch, to the ring, to the hormonal IUD. There's a shelf-full of them.
My personal problem with hormonal methods is that that they tend to cause mood swings and poor skin. For me: a sensitive little baby with psoriasis, I decided to opt out of the hormonal method.
I do know several women that do love it. Mainly because it stops/reduces their period frequency. For the best idea of whether the hormonal route is the way for you,
1. Talk to other women in your life on what birth control they use/used. Especially women in your family.
Find out whether they chose hormonal methods or physical methods, their reasons and impacts experienced.
Ask if they ever made a change and ask why
2. Talk to your doctor and what they would recommend for you
3. Read up, read up, read up!
The emergency contraceptive pill
If something bad happens (you forget to take your pill or the condom breaks) fret not, there is an emergency contraceptive pill.
Certain countries require a prescription for them and certain don't. So check beforehand.
Sperm can live in the womb for a few days. So, the emergency pill works by delaying your period. By delaying the period, ovulation is delayed and no egg will be released. Therefore there is no egg for the sperm to fertilise, preventing pregnancy.
Remember: everyone's body is different! So, take time to figure out what birth control is best for you.
I highly reccommend this quiz to figure out the best birth control for yourself: https://www.plannedparenthood.org/online-tools/what-right-birth-control-me
Have a plan in case you get pregnant.
Accidents happen. Even with birth control, pregnancy can occur. And that's okay. You are not a criminal for experiencing this. Everything will be okay.
To avoid panic and fear: Think and decide beforehand if you would abort the baby or keep it. A little morbid, I know, but it's good to have a plan.
Most people are scared of pregnancy because they don't have a plan. They don't know what to do if it were to happen to them. By preparing, you will know what to do and there will be less panic.
And remember: know that accidentally getting pregnant is nothing to be ashamed of. Many people have been in the same boat. You are not alone. Be your own best friend through the process and get good emotional support. Everything will work out for the best xx.
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