Part 2: The reality of friendship

Updated: Jun 25, 2019

Hello everyone! So for my 20th birthday and I thought I'd do a little reflective piece. This piece turned out to be a little bit long so I've split it into 3 short articles. The articles consist of what I've learnt so far and what I want to bring with me into the next decade and new phase of life. Enjoy x.


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Time to move on to part 2.


In the previous post I talked about the value of acceptance. In this post, I want to talk about the reality of friendship.

And what is this reality?


It's simple: Friendships can end.


Not every friendship, but many friendships do. Even really good ones, long ones, honest ones...

They can all end.


In the past if you had told me this, I would've been terrified. I would've stomped my foot to the ground and shouted "No!". But now, I've realised that that reaction was due to fear. I said no because I wanted to deny the truth. I knew in my gut that my friendships would end one day but at the time, my friendships were in a great place. I didn't understand how or believe that I could lose something so great.


There was also a deeper reason:


I was scared that if I drifted from them, I wouldn't connect with anyone else as well. I was scared I wouldn't have anyone else.


As time went on, I matured.


I've realised drifting happens for a reason; It's to make room for someone better in your life.


But how do we drift?


As we grow older, we have different experiences in life, different from our friends especially. These experiences change us and as we change, it is likely that our friendships will change as well. Sometimes, changing strengthens the friendship. But at other times it signals that the bond has had it's run.


Don't try to hold onto the bond because sometimes we end up hiding who we've become to satisfy the other person. You deserve better than that.


Everything happens for a reason, people come in and out of your life. And know that when one person exits your life, it is to make room for someone better.